What made you decide to become a counselor?
I had big plans for my life as I entered college. I was going to be a nurse on the mission field. My dreams of nursing school were shattered when I made a D in Microbiology at the end of my sophomore year. I had to pick a new major. A wise friend told me to think about my God-given interests, talents and spiritual gifts as I prayed for the Lord’s guidance. Every detail about the way God made me pointed to a career in counseling. I have never doubted that decision. It’s really a good thing I am not a nurse, because I cannot handle blood or germs in general!
How would you describe what therapy looks like in your office?
I begin by telling about myself as a therapist. The client is given the opportunity to ask questions about the therapist. It is a safe place to share honest thoughts and feelings. It is non-judgmental, and the boundaries are clear. There is laughing and crying there. In time, a relationship of acceptance and trust is cultivated. The client sets goals, reaches those goals, and eventually no longer needs the therapist. The therapist has worked her way out of a job.
Do you have a particular theory or type of treatment that you use?
I really enjoy marriage and family therapy as well as play therapy. I most often use Family Systems Theory, Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I am constantly researching to find the best types of treatment for individual clients.
Tell us a little about your life away from work.
I am married to a pastor, which is a full-time job in and of itself! We have two daughters, 10 and 12 years of age. We enjoy having cooking contests, which our girls call chef wars. We also enjoy fishing, tubing and skiing on the lake. Our family enjoys being a visiting resource for foster children.
If they were to make a movie about your life, who would play you?
Almost everywhere I go in any part of the country, people say I look familiar. The most popular consensus is that I look like Tracy Gold from the show Growing Pains. I believe she may have also played on Benson. If I had to choose an actress to play me, it would be Sandra Bullock. She is the smart, classy type with a goofy side!
If you weren’t a counselor, what would you be?
I would be a driver for FedEx. I would never have to exercise, because my job would be a work out.
What is your favorite verse in scripture?
The Lord your God is in your midst, a victorious warrior. He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in his love; He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.